Sunday, 27 November 2011

First Love

I have been listening to Adele's album 19 in the car and I don't pay attention to the lyrics so much as I focus on my driving but this song stood out. There's always a song for every experience in your life that you can relate to and this happened to be one of them.

To listen to the song on YouTube - click on the title below.



So little to say but so much time,
Despite my empty mouth the words are in my mind.
Please wear the face, the one where you smile,
Because you lighten up my heart when I start to cry.

Forgive me first love, but I'm tired.
I need to get away to feel again.
Try to understand why,
don't get so close to change my mind.
Please wipe that look out of your eyes,
it's bribing me to doubt myself;
Simply, it's tiring.

This love has dried up and stayed behind,
And if I stay I'll be a lie
Then choke on words I'd always hide.
Excuse me first love, but we're through.
I need to taste a kiss from someone new.

Forgive me first love, but I'm too tired.
I'm bored to say the least and I, I lack desire.
Forgive me first love,
Forgive me first love,
Forgive me first love,
Forgive me first love,
Forgive me,
Forgive me first love,
Forgive me first love

Sunday, 6 November 2011

The 5 Guidelines

Article extracted from: Is This the Way to Lose Weight? Reader's Digest October 2011 edition and below was written by Beth Dreher.

Dr Eric Westman, who directs the Duke Lifestyle Medicine Clinic in Durham, North Carolina, and who co-wrote the The New Atkins For a New You (photo insert), has been studying low-carb diets for 12 years. His 5 guidelines:

1. Dont try to limit fat.

"Eating high-fat foods keeps you from feeling deprived." says Dr. Westman. Cheese, heavy cream, sour cream, cream cheese, mayonnaise, butter and oil are all healthy parts of a low-carb diet.

2. Say goodbye to pasta, bread and rice.

To lose weight, most people have to stay under 20 grams of "net" carbs per day (net carbs is the number of grams of carbs minus grams of fibre, because fibre doesn't send blood sugar spiking). The rules out bread (two slices contain about 24 grams of net carbs), rice (over 40 grams per cup). Once you hit your goal, you can slowly add in more carbs that don't have a big impact on blood sugar.

3. Be picky about vegetables.

Starchy (carb-heavy) vegetables - most of the ones that grow underground, as well as corn - are off-limits. But you can have up to four cups daily of leafy greens such as lettuce and spinach. Limit broccoli, cauliflower, green peppers, okra, and brussels sprouts to two cups per day.

I think my next posting will be about starchy fruits and vegetables!

4. Say NO to hidden sugars.

Fruit, that legendarily healthful food is packed which sugar, aka carbohydrates. So are fruit juies. Other concentrated sources include soda, cakes and candy. You may be able to keep diet sodas, light beer, dry wine and sugar-free sweets on the menu and still lose weight.

5. Eat as much as you want.

When it comes to protein and fat, "you don't have to use portion control." says Dr. Westman. "Your hunger will go down automatically when you start eating this way - all you have to do is stop eating when you're full."

Again, I begin to understand why the food plan recommended me to follow some guidelines which eventually was effective for me on my weight loss adventures. There are some answers here but there are some other things I need to research on. Thank goodness for the internet!

And this morning, I had two eggs and a bowl of vegetables (celery, cabbage & green capsicum). Definitely low-carb. Yummy!

Hui's Tips


I had breakfast with Hui this morning at Bakerlyn Cafe in Kiulap (photo insert: me holding her latest creation named Pixie-Corn the Unicorn. A shout out to Artz of the Heart - search for Artzoftheheart Brunei on Facebook and you will see more!) and I shared with her what I had read based on my previous posting from the Reader's Digest.

Hui also had also undergone a weight loss program about a year or two ago when she was staying in Singapore (I can't remember when exactly) and she shared some simple tips which I think are pretty practical and does not sound like you're depriving yourself!

1. A low-carb diet is effective (as stated in the previous posting De-bunked!). You can eat as much protein and vegetables as you want until you feel satisfied. Her consultant didn't limit her to portion sizes because the body and you would know when to stop eating. 

2. You must eat within a 6 hour gap and do not skip meals. If you go into starvation mode i.e. really hungry mode, your body will turn to your bones and your muscles to feed itself. So you could lose weight in the short/long run but you will be losing bone mass and muscle mass and that is not good for our bodies! If you still feel full in those 6 hours, just eat a little bit, so long as you eat.

3. Make sure you eat before 8pm each evening. It allows the tummy to digest the food so you will sleep well.

4. Within one hour of waking up, eat breakfast as the body had 'fasted' the night before. Otherwise you will go into starvation mode and what is pointed out in point 2 above will happen.

5. Her consultant advised her to avoid fried food if she could but if you had an option between no food and fried food, choose fried food. I like her consultant!

These simple steps encouraged her to undergo her weight loss program but as she and I openly admitted, we love our carbs! And so we're all still work in progress. As Dory from Finding Nemo once said, "Just keep swimming... just keep swimming... just keep swimming..."

Thank you Hui for your sharing!  We should meet again soon!

De-Bunked!

I couldn’t resist picking up the October 2011 issue of the Reader’s Digest that was on my dad’s bedside table. With a photo of a juicy, might I add, healthy looking burger with a portion of chips on the side on the cover and in large-ish font “Is This the Way to Lose Weight?* The New Science of Dieting – Fat Can Help You Lose Weight!” – I just had to pick it up and quickly turned to page 38.

My first impressions as I read the article with absolute interest was that, this was the missing link between me and my food plan which I had embarked on 2 years ago. I never knew the “scientific” reason as to why they had asked me to do what I had to do and even though I had neglected to ask, I would have appreciated an explanation. Nevertheless, I now have some answers!

Thank you for all the research by Gary Taubes, author of Why We Get Fat – and What to Do About It. A well written article by Lisa Davis who interviewed Gary Taubes.

What you need to know:

The message for the past 40 years has been, if you don’t want to be fat, cut out fat from your diet. In those years, obesity rates have continued to go up.

Fat is not the enemy – Digested Carbohydrates are i.e. what has been promoted as the staples of our eating regimen e.g. white rice, fat-free yogurt, plain baked potatoes and plain pasta.

Food that we have been told to shun e.g. burgers, steak, cheese, sour cream etc can help us lose weight and keep our hearts healthy.

Sounds controversial? Keep reading…

The hypothesis that we need to work with is NOT “If I get fatter, it’s obvious that I must have overeaten.” It doesn’t address why we have overeaten. The alternative hypothesis is then, “You don’t get fat because you’re overeating. You overeat because you developed a disorder in the way your fat tissue is regulated.”

“Over the past 40 years, studies have shown that you can’ get a clinical significant effect from cutting calories. At the same time experts are saying that gluttony and sloth are responsible for weight gain, they’ll tell you no diet works and that’s why we have to come up with some anti-obesity drug that’ll make billions.”

Restricting calories is ineffective because if you restrict energy intake, your cells actually burn less energy. This will not help with weight loss.

It is impossible to count calories. No matter how good you are at counting calories and practice energy balance i.e. energy in = energy out, then why aren’t we all fat?

I love this part – “What we tell people to do to lose weight – eat less and exercise more – is exactly what you’d do if you wanted to make yourself hungry.”

There is no compelling evidence that exercise has any effect on weight. [However all these years, it somehow seems to have worked for me… *scratch head* - the article says that it’s a reasonable assumption to make but still the data does not full support this.]

There is a way to lose weight!

It has been known since the 1960s by scientists that insulin is the primary hormone that regulates your fat tissue; therefore you need to eat food that keep insulin low.

The key is in a low-carb diet! You eat what you want until you’re satiated – you just don’t eat the things that will make you fat. In most of the studies conducted, a low-carb diet actually does better than a low-fat, low-calorie diet.

What to eat? Read the entry after this posting…

A low-fat diet that people have been eating to protect their hearts is actually bad for their heart, because it’s high in carbohydrates.

A low-carb diet improves your cholesterol profile, your insulin resistance goes away and your blood pressure goes down.

It’s not your fault if you have a weight problem! *YAY*

An obese person gets judged because doctors assume that they don’t care to do what they do i.e. Eat in moderation, and exercise but it’s a hormonal disorder. “Not everyone gets fat from eating carbohydrates – it has to do with how sensitive your cells are to insulin and specifically how sensitive your fat cells are versus your muscle cells. But some huge percentage of the people who do get fat got that way because of the carbs in their diet. If you’ve been fat for a long time, getting rid of carbohydrates might not make you lean. But the leanest you can be is on the diet with the fewest carbohydrates.”

Some cautions to take note of:

Some people feel low energy while their bodies adjust to this way of eating, thought adding a little salt to your diet can take care of it.

You might need to adjust your medication as a low-carb diet can reduce your blood pressure. Talk to your doctor first.

In Summary…“Eat what humans are evolved to eat. Highly refined grains and sugars were not part of our diet for 99.999 percent of human history. Back when we were hunter gatherers, we ate meat as often as we could get it, and when we ate plants, they were much tougher and higher in fibre that they are today – much lower in digestible carbs. In other words, this isn’t a diet. The fundamental idea is, don’t eat the foods that make you fat. Beyond that, you can eat as much as you want.” 

My Thoughts: Knowing is one thing and doing is another! 

And let’s strive to always do our best, because our best is what we deserve!

Wednesday, 2 November 2011

Motions & Emotions

Now you would think that needing to wear a dress like this in public would propel you to work your body and lose weight so that at the end of the day you would look really good in it. But... I have to admit, no such thing happened! I didn't put in extra hours to go for walks in the morning or after work nor did I make a trip to the gym. Come to think of it, I don't think I would have even had the time!

D'Music Motion, the dance studio which I started with back in April 2009 recently celebrated their 6th Anniversary with a performance on 22nd October 2011. And one of the ways to celebrate a dance studio's anniversary would be to... put on a dance show! It was a celebration of all kinds and forms of dances showcasing the students of the studio as well as some other dancing friends. The show was called Motions and Emotions and I must say, throughout the whole time we dedicated to practice, there certainly was a lot of motion in learning the moves and getting them down to perfection and also emotions since some were thrown into stressful situations or their bodies were not accustomed to such intensity.

I admit, I like performing even though it freaks me out but you need to do something like this once in awhile just to shake things up. And since I committed my time and energy to it, it took a lot of my time especially the evenings. In the end as the weeks and days came closer, we were at the studio 2+ hours a night from 9pm onwards and sometimes needing to give up our Sundays. So no matter how much I wanted to look good in my dress, I was already physically exhausted from attending practice. What I enjoyed the most was building rapport with the other ladies and being able to see their own progress as they mastered the moves.

I was in 3 segments - Argentine Tango (like really, really basic Argentine Tango), Salsa (which I love to bits!) and Burlesque (a 'good girl' routine, a 'bad girl' routine and a bit of moves to support the jive). I never thought I could remember all the steps but I did! I was particularly proud of the 'bad girl' routine because it was just us 4 ladies doing some sexy moves and I still remember how hard it was for me to learn the moves because of the speed. The song was damn fast. But as always, with a good teacher and lots of support from the team, you start off slow, then you practice it over and over again to master it and voila! You bring it on the night!

Apart from the moves, I must say the costumes really got me the most. I say that because, I had to reveal my body in public. I have never worn a sleeveless dress (swimsuits not counted) in public, or a dress which is above my knee caps (I thought the shape of my legs didn't allow that) but I did. And when you're up there in front of so many people, with the bright lights on you, with a face that does not look like your own thanks to all the make up and thinking about all the hours of practice you have put yourself through with everyone else and how much the success and the reputation of the studio is at stake - you're bound to somehow look good in those costumes!

Photo Inserts:

Burlesque : Black dress with the purple frill skirt (comes complete with gloves, a blonde wig and a hairband)

Argentine Tango : Ladies in red with the ladies in the black Chinese (that's my interpretation of it!) inspired dress.

Salsa : The colourful fluffy layered skirt modeled by yours truly with the costume designer Roman from Philippines and flanked by the MCs for the evening in traditional Victorian costumes.

To me, the whole experience was truly about being comfortable in your own skin regardless of body shape and size and embracing another form of expression. It was an affirmation for me that I was able to do this with confidence despite making a couple of mistakes while dancing... but I am really proud of myself for having made my life more adventurous with dance!

Thank you for the opportunity! :-)